The Five Love Languages

A couple of days ago and J and I attended a Focus on the Family live broadcast on the book by Dr. Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages.
What are the Five Love Languages?
Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service,
and Physical Touch
Dr. Chapman says these are the ways we receive and express love. How many times have you expressed your love to your loved one and still get the cold shoulders? This is because you are assuming what makes them feel loved. There's definitely a miscommunication there. So, it is important that you ask what IS their primary love language? For example, after looking within, I have realized that I feel most loved by my spouse when he compliments my cooking or when he tells me he loves me. So, my primary love language is Words of Affirmation. Now, on his end he told me that he feels most loved when I give him a massage after a long day at work. So, his primary love language is Physical Touch. So, equipped with this knowledge, I do what makes my spouse feel loved and vice versa.
Dr. Chapman says that it is very important that our "Love Tank" is filled. We can do this by asking our loved one questions such as "honey, what can I do to make your life easier today?" We can also ask, "how is your love tank, honey?" Hopefully, the answer is "overflowing." If not, time to fill the tank with whatever your loved one's primary love language is.
Wanna know more about the book? Go to this website www.5lovelanguages.com

I have to say, this concept has already made a difference in our lives. I am overwhelmed at the support and interest J has shown in keeping our marriage strong.
There's something Dr. Gary Chapman said during the broadcast that really stuck out and that is "Everyday we have a choice to LOVE." What is yours???